Dear Tante Camilla,
I’m worried that my five-year-old is too spoiled and I don’t know what to do. I feel like if I start being mean now he’ll be confused and feel like I don’t love him anymore.
A Concerned Parent
Dear Concerned Parent:
Beb, this is mal pris for Tante Camilla because if I give you the wrong advice and your gaté fils turns out to be a bon rien in 20 years, you gonna come back and say it’s my fault. But I guess you’ll just be telling it to my mausoleum plot so that’s ok.
Anyway, bonjour mes amis. This is Tante Camilla ready to give you some advice. So venez ici and écoutez.
First of all, being strict and being mean are two different things. Hitting your kid for no reason or just because they spilled some milk, that’s mean and that’s wrong. Now giving them a swat on the bottom for lying, stealing or talking back to you, that’s being strict. You and your little boy need to understand the difference between being a mean person and being a parent. I know now-a-days people don’t believe in whippin’ a child and do those time outs so if that’s what you want to do, then do it. But even in the bible it basically says, épargner la tige, gâter l'enfant [spare the rod, spoil the child].
It’s your job to teach him right from wrong. He might be too little to understand that or might not want to understand that, but one day he will thank you.
La femme de mon frére used to spoil their kids so much that you couldn’t stand to be around them. Phew-yi they were bad, bad. They would go to a store and if they didn’t get a candy or an ice cream they would throw a fit. Me, if my petite fille had acted like that, I would have whipped her on the fesse right there in front of everybody. Well you know where their kids are right now? One of them is in the jail, one of them doesn’t work or do nothing and the other one doesn’t even talk to her momma and daddy anymore.
You can love your kids and you can spoil them that way with giving them more love than they can possibly ever want or need. But you don’t have to give them their way or give them everything they want to show them that you love them.
Eh ben, c'est tout pour asteur. When I get another question you’ll get another answer.
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Posted on Fri, March 31, 2017
by The Lafourche Gazette