Dear Tante Camilla,
When my wife gets home from work in the afternoon she changes into these old trashy clothes that are too big and sloppy. Then she cooks dinner, helps with the kids’ homework and bathes them and when they go to bed she goes to bed too. It’s like she doesn’t want to have anything to do with me. And with the way she’s already dressed by the time I get home from work, it’s not like she’s very attractive to me anyway. I hate that our marriage is going downhill but that’s the way it looks.
She’s never in the mood
Dear In the mood:
Mais this is getting better than my stories. You know in the old days we didn’t talk about things between a husband and wife like people do now. We also didn’t get a divorce just because we didn’t find our husband or wife wasn’t looking attractive anymore.
Anyway, bonjour, mes amis. This is Tante Camilla ready to give you some advice. So venez ici and écoutez.
First of all, T-boy, go back and read what you said. Your wife works, she cooks, she does the homework with the kids and she gives them a bath. So my guess is that la pauvre bête est trés fatigué. She probably puts on those old trashy clothes so when she’s cooking she don’t get her nice work clothes dirty or maybe she just wants to be comfortable. She’s more than just her clothes, beb. Otherwise you could put a skirt on an otter and call it a Madame.
Second, maybe she don’t put any effort into herself because you don’t make her feel good about herself. When a woman feels like her husband thinks she’s beautiful, she’s more likely to fix herself up and flirt a little bit. A person that is flattéed gives a lot more sugar than one that is ignored.
And third, maybe you’re looking at the wrong thing as attractive. Maybe you should look at the way she hugs your children or makes them laugh. Look at the way she folds your socks the way you like them or how she treats others. Instead of worrying about her clothes or what time she goes to bed, pay attention to how she keeps your household and think about what you and your children would do without her. Then, T-boy, I bet you’ll think she’s the most beautiful woman in the world. And ça c'est vrai fot.
Well, C'est tout pour asteur. When I get another question you’ll get another answer.
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Posted on Thu, September 1, 2016
by The Lafourche Gazette