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Independence is a myth; we are all dependent on someone or something

Independence is a myth; we are all dependent on someone or something

I appeared on Keith Weisheit’s self-help television program on channel 10 in Houma on Thursday, July 7.

The topic for the evening was “independence.” There are three segments to the program. In the first segment the three panelists talked about what they did on the 4th of July.

In the second segments I dropped a “bombshell” when I made two statements: “Independence is a myth; and, independence was the Original Sin, the sin of Adam and Eve.”

I will like to amplify what I meant by these observations.

George Bernard Shaw once said, “Independence? That’s middle class blasphemy. We are all dependent on one another, every soul of us on earth.”

No being is totally independent except God. The Divine Ruler does not need anyone or anything to exist.

We know that God is also inter-relational. Christians believe that there are three Persons in the Godhead: Father, Son and Holy Spirit. Genesis tells us that God made us after the image and likeness of the Divine Creator. That means we are made interdependent on each other.

God created us to be social beings that require involvement with others to meet our physical, emotional and spiritual needs. If you are looking for a life filled with happiness, then you should learn to ask for help and support. This is the only way we can grow and thrive and become the people God created us to be.

The definition of dependence is “a reliance on something or someone.” Let’s face it. We are all dependent to some extent. Even our Declaration of Independence is a myth. We depended on the French, the Spanish and others to break away from the English. Today the U.S. is more dependent on other nations than we were in 1776.

“Dependency” is a not dirty word. Every person on earth is dependent on someone or something. We will never become absolutely autonomous or totally self-sufficient. As we mature, we want “to stand on our own two feet.” Our goal in life is to be able to “take care of ourselves” and to cut the “umbilical cord” from our parents.

When two people love each other, the goal is for each person to “be his or her own person” and be willing to give, receive and share the gifts, passions, dedication and love of the other. When we fail to recognize the gifts of the other and how much we depend upon the support of others, our life becomes more difficult and lonely.

We all know that children are dependent on their parents or caregivers. Adults too can become more dependent when they are sick, or in an accident, or part of the aging process. These types of dependencies are good and necessary.

However, codependent relationships are a type of dysfunctional relationship where one person supports or enables another person’s addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. The core characteristic of codependency is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and identity. This type of dependency is harmful.

I also say that the Original Sin was wanting to be “independent.” Listen to what the serpent told Eve went she said didn’t know why God said that they should not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. “You will not die; for God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

In other words, they want to be gods and independent from the Creator.

That sin is still with us today. We choose to do our will and not the will of God. We follow Adam and Eve and not Jesus Christ who prayed in the other garden, “Your will be done.”